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In all the work I've done with
Emotional Intelligence since it became fashionable in the
late 80s and early 90s, the biggest TPOV I have come across
which few in the industry even notice, is the set of concepts
in psychology regarding recognition and regulation.
This TPOV is really simple, it's
just not easy.
Recognition is a key construct of
establishing a system of noticing, and recognizing that
unconsciously our systems are wired for noticing what we
notice, and to notice that --> what we are wired for noticing,
for filtering and creating biases.
The goal in regulation is to
understand that what we notice becomes a potential for
regulation, again based on our inbornness, biases and
filters.
In FLOW, enhancing this natural
cycle by:
1. understanding why we notice what
we notice, and how biases and prejudices are a part of natural
engagement.
2. as our understanding of what we
notice expands, and we move into greater acceptance of who we
are, we notice how what we notice gets regulated.
3. what gets regulated is also
directly linked to our inbornness, and that while it's
difficult sometimes to get a handle on the entire process, it
always plays out on us.
Example:
We notice that we have a tendency
to want to confront people about what is right and wrong.
We accept this notion as we realize
it's part of who we are and what is wired into us as a bias,
filter or striving.
Yet, because we know this, we may
let some of the urge, or tension around this set of conditions
find their way without us, just to notice how we learn about
our own regulation.
I think and feel that as this cycle
of recognition and regulation becomes less subject and more
object, that we relax our notions about the striving, and
allow what is a perfectly natural bias, to go through us
without evoking the consequences that unfettered process
continue as subject.
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