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Same ole BS
Easy is necessary, but not sufficient!
Where I attempt to differentiate @F-L-O-W is to evoke several
"TPOVs" such as:
Inform through limitations, reform through strengths
If it's easy (to us), then understand what's required
Be, do, have, become and contribute easy, scaffold the rest
Again easy is necessary because while we work within our
talents, things are easy @F-L-O-W, but what is required is
also important and a in a world made easy through
collaboration, connectivity, and combinatorial effects, we can
always become more antifragile and resilient by reaching
out...
IF, reaching out is not easy, then we have another ballgame
that has to be addressed.
For those whose "easy @F-L-O-W" is avoiding, keeping arm's
length, remaining aloof, apart, or distant, then you have to
work on requirements, so you don't put anymore pressure on the
"easy" system of avoidance and keep requirements from being
met minimally.
I'm worn out myself of the old "bad attitude" explanations,
and here's why:
The ONLY thing we were "built" for is living our lives. Any
pundit out there who feels they have become successful tells
us if we don't do their x, y, or z method, we have a "bad
attitude." Whether it's our parents, teachers, coaches, bosses
or spouses, we have a bad attitude, if we are not conforming
to "their" requirements.*
All of this "bad attitude" stuff comes from a comparison made
by someone with their "own" favorite standard of comparison.
If I don't live up to those standards, I have a bad attitude.
When in fact, it's the comparison that is the issue. We are
all supposed to be great @BS, make something of ourselves, do
the right thing, etc. When in fact, all of those are
"contrived" and made of "composite standards formed over time
by requirements.
YET, requirements vary, depending on the circumstances and
conditions.
Helpful Hint: Finding your "easy" button is
key IMHO. Just remember, we also have to live in the world @BS
@F-L-O-W, and therefore the "easy" button is not
enough--necessary, but not sufficient.
Action Step: In every circumstance and in
many situations, there are requirements for success, and those
requirements must be revealed in depth for us to use as a
scaffolding target for meeting those requirements. HOWEVER,
you don't have to meet those requirements on your own, and YOU
CAN CHANGE REQUIREMENTS. If your father wants you to be an
accountant with the corresponding set of requirements for
accountancy, and you find your easy button in art, then find a
way to get the requirements shifted towards art--shift the
target of scaffolding, even just a little can produce large
benefits @F-L-O-W for happiness and success.
*Word to the wise disclaimer. You may have to live, work and
play with those requirements to advance yourself into further
stages of well-being, or keep your job, so be careful about
tell others about your "bad attitude" and use the system
@F-L-O-W to gradually and incrementally shift requirements
towards your easy button!
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