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In, Not UP
 

"Do not run away. Run inward, as unripe grapes hurry toward their own sweetness." - Rumi
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Mike & Jim

"The closer I get to this jim, the more I feel that there would be benefit in working with you to set the context for the 8-12 month long group developmental work, which I see is viable going forward for the developmentalist work, it would multi-faceted, would be group driven, maybe like study group, perhaps we need to talk a little about that/research some best practices for study groups, because what i think will work in the real world is gathering people together for this work, just like TEC does for the work of business, we might do business and development, which is going to be much deeper, more personal work, but nonetheless valuable I think...

What's your opinion?

I’m game! But this assumes we can guarantee two stages of ego growth upon completion. Or a couple of stratums will do too in a pinch. <G>

I can't guarantee you any ego growth, but I can model what regression looks like for you.<G>

"Ah, yes, regression (referring to ego complexity)…that too seems important. I know you said it tongue in cheek, but it reminds me that some of us who like to crawl out on dozens of branches…need to sometimes crawl back to the trunk."

While this is a real exchange, the essence of what I would like to say here, has some levity, but true irony, in that those worried about up, are not.

Much of the developing world today is entrained on the ladder principle of BS. This principle basically states that higher is better. So, there are now dozens of groups seeking to develop people upward as fast as possible, as if in the ludicrous notion that if they succeeded that somehow the world would be a better place...yet, aren't we proving now, ironically, that the principle is flawed?

The faster and faster we pretend that we climb the ladder, complexity laughs at us and expands exponentially higher and higher as the Red Queen wins again.

I asked Jim if I could use his quote, as it is typical of the development that I see occurs as we wake up, and then begin to climb down the ladder, that we have skakily ascended for the sake of better, more and higher.

When in reality, live is really lived in the assimilation of more robustness, and not more complexity; more resilience, not height of awareness.

Helpful Hint: The more approach is a natural emerging set of properties from BS. It matches the ego needs we have to compare ourselves to others and to find our identity in the admiration of others, fully suspended in the interpersonal spiderweb of "definition by others." In FLOW, we begin to realize that relying on the opinion of others to define us, rather than the self-knowledge that emerges from getting to know ourselves, is a cul de sac that confuses us, and keeps us from the one true love, that is there for each of us.
Action Step: Notice how you respond to people who are smarter, prettier, sexier and more capable than you. Notice how you often find yourself wanting, wishing, or striving to be "better", to be more than you are now. And notice that, this too can pass in favor of the feeling when you notice that the world seems to fall away when you begin to understand what makes you tick, really, and how "getting to know yourself" begins to lessen much of the tension and urgency to be more than you are. It's not easy to get off the ladder, especially if you think you've finally got it against the right wall... but exchanging the ladder for a microscope has much more leverage for the life well-lived  

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