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If I can help you get the possibility of fanatically
passionless as ok, then you can grok and use FLOS as an
application.
Brian wrote to the list (IFLOS): Edelman offers a range of
references and allegories to explain why a changing, growing
self, constantly shaped by new experiences, is happier than
the satisfaction any end goal can give us. It
turns out the rewards we get for learning and understanding
the workings of the world really make it the journey, not the
destination that matters most. http://www.salon.com/2012/01/28/the_neuroscience_of_happiness/singleton/
Actually, we are starting to see VERY sophisticated blank
slate emergence, and for the un-indoctrinated FLOSer, the
BS
is interesting, as all
BS now that is addressing complexity
needs to be, in order to be assimilated across
domains...something that will keep BS memes more robust and
resilient as conditions shift is to make
BS not look like
BS...so this sophistication that we are starting to see,
represented by this one example, as
BS stares at itself in the
abyss, is natural-occurring.
In this case, the success model he uses fits those who are
curious and experiential: the journey, the search for meaning,
the grail, the experience of maturation, all those things are
really endowed into some inbornness, so much so, they show up
with sophisticated approaches to complex problems, in this
case, happiness; this is a valid success model for the 1 to 5%
who are naturally wound to tick this tock.
Now that you have this ambition, pursuit, chasing side....
Let me ask you...have you ever been around people without
ambition, without an agenda, without goals, not wanting to
chase anything, but sit back and allow the experience to come
to them...without wanting to make any commitments, as
commitment itself limits their freedoms?
Have you been around people who hate to learn, but can learn
by working on their hot rod, or building a tree house for the
kids out back...?
There is this idea in the evolved nature of BS, that if you
are not somehow being, doing, having and becoming something,
then you have not earned your stripes...worked on yourself, or
"gone" spiritual, even so much so that at cocktail parties and
gatherings, if you are dull, un-interesting, and don’t have
the fresh stories of pursuit available, you are seen as daft,
uninteresting and/or ne’er-do-well...
"I" used to think that if you weren't
BDHB, that you were
lazy, without ambition, etc.
...my first wife was an INFP, I still remember our first date,
she got into the pickup (I was a secret rootin, tootin rodeo
cowboy football player (they actually made me give up rodeo in
my aggie scholarship agreement, didn't want me to get HURT!)
jock, etc)...on our way to the world championship rodeo (you
didn't think a first date with your future wife could be to a
movie right?)...she opened up a dime novel and started
reading...
Little did I know that she lived for everyone else but herself
and was in the end, fanatically passionless...and while our
hot rodder, or backyard builder, don't fit this mold, the idea
that someone can be passionate, but without ambition is lost
in American
Society of Achievement and Success.
The absolute hardest task I have as a designer, modeler and
snake oil salesman is to show you that people without passion
are just as valuable as those who have it running in every
sinew of their bodies.
Most of us achievers run into one of these "gap" people
sometime during our lives and they may be clothed in
depression, mental illness, addiction, or any of the other
hundreds of "people with something wrong with them" including
but not limited to lazy, ambitionless, non-curious,
vocational, street person, homeless and anyone of the other
fringe types: outliers of sorts, hermits, social recluses, or
just plain unfriendly, unsociable, or dumb...noting some of
the obvious choices for descriptors and adjectives.
How does society judge these people, at least those in the
USA, let's say for context?
Almost all of the time, there is something wrong, odd or
disconcerting about these people. Talk
about neuroscience of happiness? It
won't fit much here, at least easily, it's pretty complex to
think that the fanatically
passionless, as I like to metaphorize this idea...are
valued at all in a society where you must be x, y, or z in
order to be ok.
BUT and this is a big BUT...
If u can see value in those who are the least likely to hold
your values, the acceptance process
has begun and with that, a whole other area of design has been
revealed.
INSTEAD of trying to cram everyone through a carwash (as my
friend and mentor, Dr. Don Beck is fond of saying...)...we
start to look for ways in which people can be valued in the
process of life unfolding.
Now, if the author show cased above talks about the
neuroscience of this, then I'm happy<G>. or
at the least, successful.
If the government is really of the people, by the people and
for the people, really? Then
it has to do more than hand out food stamps, give free medical
care and housing vouchers. If
we really value those, that have little value in a society
where everyone is thought of as being created equal...and are
constantly pushed to maintain standards which for them are unhappily achieved,
or for that matter, inadequately are created and fit,
undignified in their nature and causes them to spend their
lives constantly being fixed, then the government we have is
not for the fanatically passionless.
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