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You will see that in this
definition (one of the earliest as these guys were first
movers to commercialize and popularize, before Daniel Goleman,
a NY Times Writer, became "interested" (partly because of
relationships with those at Hay-McBer Consulting, now the
HayGroup, which David McClelland founded, btw, Boyatzis was
the CEO for around 7 years, as I remember him telling
me...)...in Emotional Intelligence and created the
best-sellers that continue to inform
BS today.
I won't say there is not a bit of
FLOW in the work, but to me, it needs serious repurposing to
be optimal.
Using the Goleman model in
Emotional Intelligence, there are some real key notions:
Self-awareness is pivotal, without
it, there is low ability for social awareness, and even lower
ability for self-management, going back to the tenets of
recognition and regulation as
an underlying model.
You can read my paper:
http://www.b-coach.com/news/ODJ.pdf [MyPal, please link
this paper in flos.info/papers/ODI and substitute links] and
in the first part I summarize the EI model as it's related to
executive coaching, as the model is there in graphic form as
is the research I've quoted about self-awareness.
Yet, that is not what I want to
discuss here about Emotional Intelligence?
Note the "?" mark?
Because what I discovered and is
unique to
FLOW, is that Blank Slate focuses on you controlling
yourself, and teaching you to fix all your
broke-ass weaknesses so you can behave...and
yet, we know that in large part, to try to reason with a
oncoming train is rather stupid. However, here we have in the
entire field of emotional intelligence a focus on fixing
ourselves so we can behave better and reap the rewards for
"nice little people" society's hand-outs, and all the while
the idiots without any self-control continue to abuse, beat,
maim and kill those "nice emotionally intelligent people"!
DON'T POKE THE SHARKS!
They don't teach this in emotional
intelligence and that's why you see me referring to EI? with a
question mark.
With
FLOW, we know people are
mostly, especially under the gun of emotions, irrational. In
fact, Khaneman won a nobel prize in economics for
demonstrating the obvious, we are not rational
decision-makers...go figure!
Therefore, the emotional
intelligence lies not in fixing yourself, but in learning that
you and others will behave irrationally and if you don't want
to get bit, abused, maimed, or dead, that you learn to
recognize the emotions in others and run like hell, forget
about them being rational and you being "emotionally
intelligent?"
What I discovered is that whenever
there is an amygdala attack, an emotional arousal causing the
person to choose one of the 4fs..as a basic category of
functioning, there are two emotionally stupid
persons, at least...usually there are a lineup, or causal loop
of these emotionally intelligent idiots who fail to realize
that someone is being pushed to and often past their limits.
YOU SEE, I put the onus of
emotional intelligence on the person who is actually "creating
and triggering" the amygdala attack because they are
completely unaware and full of
BS about how THEY are not the
one's behaving without emotional intelligence and clearly they
think it is the person having the attack who is at fault, as
taught by the main-line of EI?.
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